How To Train Your Body To Be Multi-Orgasmic

Multiple orgasms. Ah, probably the best part about being a woman. What does it mean to be multi-orgasmic, you may ask?

Well… You are considered to be multi-orgasmic when you have the capability to orgasm and then have more shortly after without a refractory phase (An amount of time needed to relax or refrain from sexual activities until you become less sensitive and you can reach another O) Being multi-orgasmic comes in 2 forms. First one is the most common. This one is where the woman can cum and then go right back into stimulation with little sensitivity in order to reach another orgasm within the next 0-3 minutes. The second, less common one is when a woman orgasms and then within SECONDS has a stronger one, and then yet again with each one becoming more and more intense. 

 Our bodies are completely capable of being multi-orgasmic by nature. However, it is something that sometimes takes a bit of practice. It’s all about finding which stimulation works best for you. If you are like me at all, I have a specific spot that can be stimulated over and over and over again to produce super-orgasms without any refractory phase at all. It took a bit of solo-time in order for me to discover it though. 

If you typically can orgasm from clitoral stimulation alone and then find yourself quite sensitive after the first orgasm, I have a few tips. #1-Vibration: Since your clitoris isn’t JUST the pea sized organ you typically think of (It’s actually about 4 inches long and runs down both sides of your labia,) vibrations is a good tool in stimulating the rest of the clitoris with or without having direct pressure on the most sensitive part. #2-A Combination: If you can learn to come internal and external stimulation at the same time, I promise you will have the most amazing orgasm of your entire life. When you have something inside you at the time of clitoral stimulation, your clitoris will naturally become less sensative due to the blood distribution needed to now line your vagina walls as well. People who can master this trick have better luck teaching themselves to become multi-orgasmic then those who do clitoral stimulation alone or switch back and forth from one type of stimulation to the next.

I will be completely honest with you, the ability to do this is an art, and it takes time to learn. Not only do you have to figure out what techniques work best, but you need to TRAIN your body to react this way each  and every time if you choose to have more than one orgasm in a given session. (Who wouldn’t want to have more than one?) “But it takes so much time to reach another one after the first” My advice to you is simple. Masturbation. A lot of it. Yes it is a great experience when someone else gives you an orgasm, but you will be way more satisfied if you can learn on your own and then bring it to your bedroom life. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t ask for a bit of help from your partner, but sex is a very mutual thing and it takes a lot of time spent on you to get the orgasms rolling back to back, and sometimes that’s hard for the non-receiving partner to have a sense of fulfillment if they aren’t getting any of the gratification. But if you have a partner that is willing to put their needs aside for a few nights in order for you to learn the trick of the trade, then more power to ya!

Another thing. The more sexual pleasure you are having (sex or masturbation) the more likely you are to develop the ability. Arousal is not just a quick thing. It takes your body a good 12-24 hours to fully calm down from any sort of sexual stimulation. If you can keep your body in a constant state of arousal (and I don’t mean a full on horny ” I need to have sex NOW” state) I mean having at least one orgasm every 12 hours or so trains your body to stay in the alert state and ready to orgasm at any time without much stimulation at all. “But I’m a parent with a full time job, I just don’t have time to dedicate to that” My question to you is.. Do you shower everyday? If so. Take some time in the shower do work one out. Sit on the edge of the tub. Lay on a towel on the floor. Do what you need to do to GET IT DONE. I should probably add that the “every 12 hours” thing doesn’t have to last forever. It’s merely just a tool to condition your body to being capable of achieving pleasure so you’re not a “1 & done” type of person. Once you are conditioned to it, you should be able to achieve more than one orgasm every time you engage in sexual activities.. Even if you go weeks in between. (But for the love of god, if you are going weeks without sex… Email me, comment or message me for a little sexual counseling. I answer 10-25 people in any given day who need a little help in the bedroom, so please don’t be shy!) 

Email: lennoxleearrigucci@gmail.com

BOTTOM LINE.. Learning to achieve multiple orgasms is like learning a bike (but much more enjoyable ūüėČ hehe) Once you learn, it’s something your body will never forget. Carry on! 

Kisses- Lennoxxx

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Let’s Talk About Sex: How To Deep-Throat

Ok, ok..This is one of the most commonly asked questions sent to my inbox, so today is the day we have this talk.

Take a breath, sit back, and enjoy the ride;)

For those of you who don’t know what it is, deep-throating is “the sexual act in which a person takes their partner’s entire erect penis deep into their mouth and down their throat” if we want to get textbook exact about it. The biggest issue girls have with deep-throating is the ever annoying gag reflex. Unfortunately I, along with most women, have a sensitive gag reflex. It’s important to know the proper way to go deep, because no dude wants a lap full of vomit. That’s not very cute.

My first tip is to relax. Relax your body, relax your throat, relax your mind. A lot unsuccessful deep-throating happens because the person panics and tenses up. You need to BREATHE. You say “how can I breathe when there is a dick blocking my airway?”. You breathe through your nose, that’s how. It’s really that easy.

Another obstacle that can get in the way of successful deep-throating, is your angle. The easiest way to make sure there is a straight shot right to your throat is to lay flat on your back with your head hanging slightly off the bed. The guy can then stand straight above you and go at it. The only downside to this position is the fact that you might get a hacky-sack to the forehead. But if you’re into that, then this position is for you!

Sometimes guys can get a little forceful during the act.  They will usually try and get you to go deeper by using their hands or trapping you between a prop. It’s only natural to want to bite down when you are having something rather forcefully shoved down your throat. But for the love of God, please keep your tongue flat over your bottom teeth. No guy wants you to accidentally bit down on their tender log. 

Deep-throating isnt for everyone.. So if you try all these tips, and still nothing works for you, here is one last tip that might just save you a lot of the stress over the matter.

Take your tongue and press it against your soft-pallet (the top part of your mouth right before your throat) and as the guy thrusts, it gives the illusion that he is as far back in your throat as he can go. Jokes on him, he’s not, and it feels just as good for him, but you won’t gag!

That’s all for now folks. Feel free to email me any questions or topics you’d like me to cover to lennoxleearrigucci@gmail.com

Your Right As A Woman To Cum Last!

Ah, this is something I think about that men have completely wrong. Sure, ladies first is a typical gentleman gesture, but that doesn’t always have to apply to the bedroom as well. For way too long, women’s orgasms are seen as merely foreplay. In that way it makes it seem like women’s orgasms are less important and are just a “warmup”before the actual ordeal. This is incredibly frustrating for me..I’m a woman that prefers intercourse vs. having to lay through lengthy foreplay sessions just waiting for the real show to get on the road. 

Think about this.. How do you feel after an orgasm? Tired. Relaxed. Relieved. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to just lay down and enjoy the after-effects without the obligation to reciprocate during your afterglow. The answer to that should be a solid “yes”. How come men are typically the ones that get to cum last? It’s your right as a woman to have that option as well. Seriously, get your partner off first and THEN make sure you get the last horrah. You will thank me later.

Happy fucking:)

Let’s Talk About: BDSM- Who is doing it??!

Hello. Welcome to the deepest, darkest part of my blog. This is where we talk about BDSM and all things related.

Note: If you have any questions or want to talk BDSM, comment below, or feel free to add me on Fetlife.com (its_mistress_b) or feel free to shoot me an email (its.mistress.b@gmail.com) If you choose to remain anonymous, that is completely fine. I will never share your name or email address with anybody else. I understand it’s somewhat of a sensitive topic. I receive 100s of emails a day, and will usually get to your email within 48 hours. 

Ok, onto the reading…

First off, if you do NOT know what BDSM stands for, then here is a short explanation. 

Bondage-Dominance/Discipline-Sadism/Submission, Masochism

A little history on this.. BDSM dates way back to Ancient Greek times. Ancient art thoroughly depicted Kama Sutra (300AD) and public spanking along with other erotic activities. Even 18th century European brothels specialized in dominant women “punishing” eager and deserving submissive men with floggers for sexual enjoyment.

Studies show that people who engage in BDSM tend to be more extroverted, more open to new experiences, more conscientious, more secure in their relationships, more sexually adventurous overall, less paranoid about other disliking them, and less stressed.

Alright, now it’s time for statistics.. Who’s into what? 

Tell their partners what they want during sex:  

YES-71%

NO-29%

Share their sexual fantasies with their partner:

YES-56%

NO-44%

Use Blindfolds Regularly:

YES-27%

NO-73%

Have a safe word:

YES-17%

NO-83%

(Note: I was absolutely astounded by this statistic.. It’s important to have a safe word in all sexual relationships… One that doesn’t ruin the mood, but let’s your partner know that you don’t like what is going on. SO. VERY. IMPORTANT.)

Alright, let’s break it down by genders now.

Like to be bitten erotically:

WOMEN-55%

MEN-50%

Men have always been seen as the most dominant gender since the age of time, but the truth is, in the bedroom.. That isn’t always the case.

MALES:

Dominant-48%

Submissive-33% (YES, a third of men like when the woman takes charge.. Meeeeowwww!)

Switch- 18%

FEMALES:

Dominant- 8%

Submissive- 75%

Switch- 16%


I’ve Got A Girl Crush.. I Hate To Admit It, But…. It’s Hard Being Bi-Sexual In A Straight World

The Forbidden girl-crush. The crush you have that is completely wrong on so many levels. The crush that you cannot tell a single soul about because you know that they would just laugh in your face. The crush that you are embarrassed to have because you’re not quite sure how it came about.. Especially when it come out of fucking nowhere. That crush that comes about when you are sitting next to an “unattainable”(The name for the people that deep down you know will never be able to reciprocate) and you just look up at them and think, “God damn you are fucking beautiful.. What it would be like to fuck you.” *blushes* That is a real thought I have had before. I have literally experienced the trifecta of all unattainables in the last year. Married. Straight. And Co-worker. (Authors Note: I would like to buy a vowel and add “virgin” to the list of obstacles. Not unattainables, but obstacles… I can charm the pants off anyone. MOTHERFUCKING PUN INTENDED)

*I literally just laughed out loud at myself.

Anyways, I always fall for someone under one of those categories… Like… It would be nice to fall for a nice single gal or gent.. But unfortunately, that’s not how most of my crushes end up. I say “crush” because in these situations, I’m not looking for a relationship. I’m looking for quality time or sex. You know, every time I start to feel that godforsaken feeling of admiration for someone forbidden, I try to shut that shit down right away. Notice I said “try”. The next thing that I do is mentally overcome the “obstacles” that separate me from that person being attainable. And by attainable, I don’t mean available…I mean willing. So here is my thought process on it whenever a GIRL-crush comes about. I’ll talk about boy crushes in a later blog.

Straight.

This is the hardest of the obstacles to overcome. Some women are so set in their ways that the thought of even trying anything with a woman is definitely not a possibility. I don’t care if you are single, married, divorced, etc.. If you are curious about chick-sex…experiment, it can be a lot of fun if you trust the person you choose to engage with. The truth is, most women have the curiosity but not the opportunity to try things out. Bottom line though, if someone identifys as “straight” thats where the crush has to stop, because nothing will come of it. This is the hardest realization to come to. It literally hurts, when you want something so bad. Onto the next obstacle.

Married.
This obstacle is somewhat difficult to overcome. If someone is married, sometimes (not usually), they might have an open relationship. And if they don’t sometimes in heterosexual relationships, the male doesn’t mind if the woman experiments with another women. You know.. Dudes and the whole girl on girl fantasy.. Lol. I’ve known people that are ok with the woman being with another woman as long as the man is still in the room. Which is a double plus for me.. I get to have fun with someone’s wife or girlfriend, and then there’s the whole exhibitionist aspect of it. Onward ho.

Co-Worker or Professional Relationship

This obstacle is the least hard to overcome, mostly due to the fact that if both people are willing, it’s an easy secret to keep. I once “dated” a co-worker in a workplace that strictly forbid employee relationships. In fact, the better way to explain it point blank is… I was sleeping with my manager. We kept it a complete secret for many months, and only agreed to admit to it once we were both no longer working there. However, I have slept with people with jobs that I can NEVER tell a single soul about. If someone decides to breach their job contract in the aspect of having sexual relations with co-workers, employees, clients, or patients, I am bound in secrecy. Lucky for them, I’m great at keeping dirty little secrets. 

Some people would consider age a determining factor. I used to, so I get it.. But I no longer do. As long as both parties are willing, why the hell not.

In conclusion.. I understand that my ideas on the matter are a little warped, but thats truly what it is like to be bi-sexual in a location where not many people are willing to admit that they a gay, bi, trans, etc. But let me leave you with this little thought. People with obstacles are much more fun to pursue than the people that are willing from the start. Hehe!

This is ME! (Repost because it got 500 views in the first 2 hours)

This Is ME.I’m sitting at work, looking up kinky pictures and quotes on the internet as Christian radio plays faint in the background. Makes me giggle a bit. “Who turned this on?” I think to myself.I remember working at my moms store growing up where Christian radio played nonstop. I remember thinking “this is exactly where I need to be”. It’s not where I was, but where I thought society wanted me to be. I was miserable. And then I grew up..

As I browse through the thousands of kinky, BDSM-related pictures, all I can think is “THIS is exactly where I am, this is me” and it makes me happy. 
It’s amazing what a few years can do. You change yourself repeatedly until you finally figure out who you are. But once you find it, it’s bliss. 

Who I am isn’t necessarily what society thinks I should be. I’m non-conventional & strict non-conformist. I’m hell-on-heels, I like the darkness, and if it’s dirty, kinky, messy, or just plain wrong. I want it. I’ll make you beg, I’ll make you scream, and I’ll make you bite the pillow, but I promise you’ll like it. 

I’ll give you intellectual orgasms in multiples and allow temptation to drip from your ears. I’ll go down on your thoughts, and taste your perception. I’m a saint with the lips of a sinner. And an angel with a devilish kiss. I’m not vanilla, and will make your wildest fantasies a reality. I’m very attracted to men 25+ and women in their 30s and 40s (Something about knowledge with age thing) and I’m not afraid to admit my curiosities. You come onto me, I’ll reciprocate. 

What some women see as degrading, I see as empowering. Your pleasure is my pleasure, darling.. -Lennox

This is me. And I like this part of me. Once you learn to embrace your sexuality for what it is, you’ve won half the battle of figuring out who you truly are.

Being A Vagina Owner 101

So, as far as I know.. I’ve been a vagina owner for 23 years. And by that, I definitely¬†mean I’m aware I’ve had one‚Ķ for 23 years. I’ve always been pretty in-tune with things that are going on down below. However, some people aren’t that perceptive, or perhaps they just don’t care about the health of their lady-bits. If you’re one of those people, stop the neglect right now. Having a healthy vagina is very important and here I will share some tips, tricks, and things from experience.

Shaving:

Ok, so as far as I know, most women know their way around a shaver, so I don’t need to go over the basics. If you DON’T know how to use a shaver, you’re probably too young to be reading my blog anyways, so you should probably just click the little “X” in the righthand corner and go onto like toysrus.com or something. Anyways. Just a few tips on how to make shaving that region easier. First off, use some sort of soap, preferably formulated for that area. Summer’s Eve has a great line of scented vagina soaps, lack of a better word. They tend to be a little more gentle than other soaps that can throw off your pH balance. Some people disagree with using any kind of soap in that area, but as long as your not like putting it directly inside, I don’t really see the problem. Ok, so after you get done shaving, its super important to exfoliate the external area with a sugar scrub or some sort to get rid of excess dead skin to make it smooth. Once you get out of the shower, put an unscented or oatmeal lotion on the freshly shaved area. (Note: If you don’t shave your vagina on a pretty regular basis, you will probably find that you have more irritation or ingrown hairs than a person who does it on the daily.) The more you shave that area, the less irritation you will get each time you shave.

Feminine Odor:

I could go on about this for hours. Lets face it, vaginas have a smell. Some smell better than others, but unfortunately they have a specific scent. I have tried dozens of products over the past few years in search of the perfect solution to this common “problem”. I guess I wouldn’t even really consider it a “problem” but for some women, it really is. So here are my findings. If you use wipes instead of toilet paper whenever you use the restroom, you won’t notice that you have much scent at all. A lot of women use wipes directly after they workout (Note: Vaginas have more sweat glands than an armpit), but I use them all day. They make me feel clean and confident. Along with using specially formulated soaps and wipes, I just recently discovered that the BEST thing to combat smell is‚Ķ. *drumroll please* ‚Ķ.. Body powder! Summers Eve makes a body powder that is safe to put in your sensitive areas. Literally, I’m a lifetime user from here on out. I’ve been using it for about 3 weeks, and I have not found a better product yet. Vaginas self-clean, and sometimes stuff just‚Ķ comes out. You ALL know what I mean. If you don’t feel like using powders or soaps, even just wearing a pantyliner and changing it a few times a day helps. Doctors suggest that wearing cotton underwear is best, since it is a material that “breathes”. Buuuuut‚Ķ I don’t like cotton underwear‚Ķ I like lace. I actually find that cotton holds onto unnecessary moisture, and I hate that feeling. Moving on.

The Clitoris:

Did you know that the clitoris isn’t just limited to the pea-sized bump we typically think of when you think about a clitoris. The clitoris is actually an organ shaped similar to an upside-down wishbone. The clitoris actually extends about 3 inches down on each side of the vulva. So the part that you can see is only about 10% of the actual size of the clitoris. Thats why some women have found that they find great pleasure from stimulating the parts next to and around the exposed area. The external area isn’t always the most sensitive. Sorry guys, anatomy class told you that the exposed part is the sweet-spot, but unfortunately everyone is different. Forward we march.

The Itch You Just Can’t Scratch:

Everyone gets an itch in that area from time to time. But for some, its an itch that persists and that just doesn’t seem to get any better. A lot of women feel like vaginal itch is pretty common around the time of their period. That is pretty normal.. I mean theres excess fluid coming out at sometimes alarming rates and you just feel kind of icky. If you are experiencing itch that lasts more than a couple days after your period, theres a chance that you might have a yeast infection. You vagina is always at war with itself in balancing good bacteria and yeast, and sometimes the yeast wins. Another time that women might experience itch is while taking antibiotics. After all, they deplete you of bacteria in areas other than which they are intended. So obviously I don’t need to tell you that if the itching persists or gets worse that you need to see a doctor. However, if you have been on an antibiotic, all you need to do is call your doctor and they can put you on a med or get you some creme no questions asked. And onward.

Be Aware:

Lastly, the most important tip of all is to just be body conscience¬†and aware of what your body is doing and when. Its good to check yourself out down there every couple of weeks to make sure things are up to par. Especially if you’re having sex. Women who masturbate on a regular basis are very perceptive¬†of any changes to their vagina, but for women who don’t.. its really important that you check things out too. Lay down on your bed and use a mirror to¬†investigate.

There is no rule that says that your vagina has to look any specific way, smell a specific way, and function a specific way. Be confident and love every part of yourself. You were built this way for a reason, and every part of you is beautiful. ‚̧

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What Happens When You Give Up Masturbation For A Month

What happens when you give up masturbation for a month? Do you think it would be easy? Do you think it would be hard? Or maybe somewhere in between…

Let me start of by saying, giving up masturbation for a month is just crazy talk. Absolute craziness that I just cannot comprehend even being a feasible goal. First off.. WHY.. WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY? Well the people of Buzzfeed decided to do an experiment and see exactly WHAT happens when they give it up for a whole 30 days.

Going into the challenge, they knew that it was going to be‚Ķ well, for lack of a better word, hard. “I absolutely masturbate everyday” was the general consensus of all participants.

Why did they decide to do this challenge? Well, for one, its extremely entertaining. And two, they just wanted to see if they could do it. Most of the participants were men, but there was one brave lady that decided to join the “fun”.

Let me just put this out there. WOMEN MASTURBATE TOO. We do. Its true. Annnd I’m not quite sure why women try to hide it like its some awful thing. Its one of the most natural things in life. Orgasms. Pleasure. What is so wrong with admitting it? Anyways, back to the challenge.

On their very first day, most people went about the day with optimism.. but when the time came (ha.) that they normally would, you know.. work one out.. trip the switch.. polish the pearl..hitchhike south‚Ķ or my favorite one, “ladywank”‚Ķ well they reacted a bit confused, or rather irritated, mostly just not knowing what to do instead.

But get this.. as the days went on, they would find themselves becoming less patient, quicker to anger, and well‚Ķ horny (obviously.) Horny people are awful to deal with.. Im not quite sure if everyone is as perceptive of this as I am‚Ķ but I can always tell when I’m around someone who hasn’t gotten off for awhile. I can literally FEEL the sexual tension in the air. Which in return makes me tense.. and horny.. and soon I’m just a fucking hot mess. I applaud these brave souls for finishing the 30 day challenge, because for myself, I find that I get rather edgy even after just a couple days, and 30 days for me would seem like an eternity. Its that whole sexual release you get. Not only does it feel great, but it does wonders for your mood.

To conclude…In my opinion.. Don’t deprive yourself. The negative effects just aren’t worth it.

If you want to check out their video for yourself, here is the link! ENJOY

Buzzfeed: What Happens When You Give Up Masturbation

This Is ME.

I’m sitting at work, looking up kinky pictures and quotes on the internet as Christian radio plays faint in the background. Makes me giggle a bit. “Who turned this on?” I think to myself.I remember working at my moms store growing up where Christian radio played nonstop. I remember thinking “this is exactly where I need to be”. It’s not where I was, but where I thought society wanted me to be. I was miserable. And then I grew up..

As I browse through the thousands of kinky, BDSM-related pictures, all I can think is “THIS is exactly where I am, this is me” and it makes me happy. 

It’s amazing what a few years can do. You change yourself repeatedly until you finally figure out who you are. But once you find it, it’s bliss. 

Who I am isn’t necessarily what society thinks I should be. I’m non-conventional & strict non-conformist. I’m hell-on-heels, I like the darkness, and if it’s dirty, kinky, messy, or just plain wrong. I want it. I’ll make you beg, I’ll make you scream, and I’ll make you bite the pillow, but I promise you’ll like it. 

I’ll give you intellectual orgasms in multiples and allow temptation to drip from your ears. I’ll go down on your thoughts, and taste your perception. I’m a saint with the lips of a sinner. And an angel with a devilish kiss. I’m not vanilla, and will make your wildest fantasies a reality. I’m very attracted to men 25+ and women in their 30s and 40s (Something about knowledge with age thing) and I’m not afraid to admit my curiosities. You come onto me, I’ll reciprocate. 

What some women see as degrading, I see as empowering. Your pleasure is my pleasure, darling.. -Lennox

This is me. And I like this part of me. Once you learn to embrace your sexuality for what it is, you’ve won half the battle of figuring out who you truly are.