How To Train Your Body To Be Multi-Orgasmic

Multiple orgasms. Ah, probably the best part about being a woman. What does it mean to be multi-orgasmic, you may ask?

Well… You are considered to be multi-orgasmic when you have the capability to orgasm and then have more shortly after without a refractory phase (An amount of time needed to relax or refrain from sexual activities until you become less sensitive and you can reach another O) Being multi-orgasmic comes in 2 forms. First one is the most common. This one is where the woman can cum and then go right back into stimulation with little sensitivity in order to reach another orgasm within the next 0-3 minutes. The second, less common one is when a woman orgasms and then within SECONDS has a stronger one, and then yet again with each one becoming more and more intense. 

 Our bodies are completely capable of being multi-orgasmic by nature. However, it is something that sometimes takes a bit of practice. It’s all about finding which stimulation works best for you. If you are like me at all, I have a specific spot that can be stimulated over and over and over again to produce super-orgasms without any refractory phase at all. It took a bit of solo-time in order for me to discover it though. 

If you typically can orgasm from clitoral stimulation alone and then find yourself quite sensitive after the first orgasm, I have a few tips. #1-Vibration: Since your clitoris isn’t JUST the pea sized organ you typically think of (It’s actually about 4 inches long and runs down both sides of your labia,) vibrations is a good tool in stimulating the rest of the clitoris with or without having direct pressure on the most sensitive part. #2-A Combination: If you can learn to come internal and external stimulation at the same time, I promise you will have the most amazing orgasm of your entire life. When you have something inside you at the time of clitoral stimulation, your clitoris will naturally become less sensative due to the blood distribution needed to now line your vagina walls as well. People who can master this trick have better luck teaching themselves to become multi-orgasmic then those who do clitoral stimulation alone or switch back and forth from one type of stimulation to the next.

I will be completely honest with you, the ability to do this is an art, and it takes time to learn. Not only do you have to figure out what techniques work best, but you need to TRAIN your body to react this way each  and every time if you choose to have more than one orgasm in a given session. (Who wouldn’t want to have more than one?) “But it takes so much time to reach another one after the first” My advice to you is simple. Masturbation. A lot of it. Yes it is a great experience when someone else gives you an orgasm, but you will be way more satisfied if you can learn on your own and then bring it to your bedroom life. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t ask for a bit of help from your partner, but sex is a very mutual thing and it takes a lot of time spent on you to get the orgasms rolling back to back, and sometimes that’s hard for the non-receiving partner to have a sense of fulfillment if they aren’t getting any of the gratification. But if you have a partner that is willing to put their needs aside for a few nights in order for you to learn the trick of the trade, then more power to ya!

Another thing. The more sexual pleasure you are having (sex or masturbation) the more likely you are to develop the ability. Arousal is not just a quick thing. It takes your body a good 12-24 hours to fully calm down from any sort of sexual stimulation. If you can keep your body in a constant state of arousal (and I don’t mean a full on horny ” I need to have sex NOW” state) I mean having at least one orgasm every 12 hours or so trains your body to stay in the alert state and ready to orgasm at any time without much stimulation at all. “But I’m a parent with a full time job, I just don’t have time to dedicate to that” My question to you is.. Do you shower everyday? If so. Take some time in the shower do work one out. Sit on the edge of the tub. Lay on a towel on the floor. Do what you need to do to GET IT DONE. I should probably add that the “every 12 hours” thing doesn’t have to last forever. It’s merely just a tool to condition your body to being capable of achieving pleasure so you’re not a “1 & done” type of person. Once you are conditioned to it, you should be able to achieve more than one orgasm every time you engage in sexual activities.. Even if you go weeks in between. (But for the love of god, if you are going weeks without sex… Email me, comment or message me for a little sexual counseling. I answer 10-25 people in any given day who need a little help in the bedroom, so please don’t be shy!) 

Email: lennoxleearrigucci@gmail.com

BOTTOM LINE.. Learning to achieve multiple orgasms is like learning a bike (but much more enjoyable 😉 hehe) Once you learn, it’s something your body will never forget. Carry on! 

Kisses- Lennoxxx

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Does Sexuality and Sexual Preference Have More To Do With What We Learn Is “Normal” or “Acceptable” Or What Is Biologically Engrained Within Our Very Genetic Makeup?

Biologically our bodies are programmed for specific functions we share with all other human beings. In order to live, your heart needs to beat, your lungs need oxygen, and your blood is what holds you all together. Humans have natural instincts that don’t have to be taught to them in order for them to learn. From birth, you know how to take your first breath, and swallow your first drink of milk without much assistance at all. Our bodies are programmed to be a specific way, and when they aren’t what is considered the norm, a person is considered to have “something wrong”, be “sick”, or “disabled”. Our brain is a crucial part of our body and I have to wonder if the same rules or social norms really apply to mind as well.

Does our sexuality or sexual preference have more to do with what we learn is “normal” or “acceptable” or what is biologically engrained within our very genetic makeup? People who are attracted to the same sex are among the minority. Several studies suggest that gay, lesbian, or bisexuals have higher rates of some mental disorders compared to heterosexuals. I think that discrimination could be a factor in these statistics as well. There are higher rates of anxiety, mood, substance use disorders, and suicidal thoughts among people 15-54 who are with a same-sex partner.

In nature it is instinct for animals to find the opposite sex and procreate. Men have a penis and women have a vagina and they were created to be together. You see this pattern in everything in life. Male-Female. Black-White. Yin-Yang.. Some things just go together. And when something in your life doesn’t fit this pattern, you start to feel like something is not right.

Growing up, I knew that I was attracted to girls 5 years before I had my first feelings of attraction to boys. I have known since I was 3 years old that I was attracted to women sexually. I knew it, and growing up I didn’t know how to feel about it or WHAT to do about it because I knew what I was feeling wasn’t something anyone had ever discussed with me. I had never seen a same-sex couple, and I didn’t know that those feelings I was having had a label I would later learn down the road. But what I did know, is that my friends didn’t feel the same way about me that I did about them. I initiated “playing doctor” more times than I can count, and was confused why I was left with uncomfortable feelings in parts of my body that at that time I was too young to understand. Sexual attraction is instinctive. I know this because I developed it early on and it is something I’m still discovering and still question more and more everyday.

I was in a relationship with a woman on and off for a couple of years. She was the first woman that I had romantic feelings for the reciprocated. It threw me and the rest of my family for a total head spin, because up until that point.. I was always “straight”. But what nobody knew is that deep down there was a part of me that just wasn’t happy with the idea of having a husband someday. It just never appealed to me, and it still doesn’t. Even growing up, I never really had the desire to date men (or women for that matter). I would see my friend in and out of relationships and I just never understood the point of dating when you’re in middleschool or high school… It’s not like you can really truly have a life together at that point. Moving on from that though.. 

When I first started dating the woman, inside I was really happy.. But on the outside, I was still embarrassed and insecure what people would think of me. Luckily, I was in a city that was extremely accepting of the gay population. I had a job at that point that allowed me to interact with close friends daily who were also gay or bisexual. It’s funny how that worked out so perfectly, but everything happens for a reason. I truly believe that was my sole purpose of being there, was to truly discover who I really am without the pressure and expectations of small-town living. I eventually became more comfortable with it, and would proudly display her whenever we would go out on the town. It also helped that her friends and family were supportive of us, and mine came around eventually too. Things ended up not working out between us, so I ended up having to move back to my hometown. That move was the single most devastating moment of my life. I couldn’t afford my bills anymore and was having some serious mental health issues. So, my parents decided that it would be best for me to just come home. My dad gave me a 2 month notice that I would be leaving, and it threw me into a depression among no other. Along with the recent breakup, and the news of my departure.. I lost every motivation and became a hollow shell. I spend every night drinking hard liquor until I couldn’t drink anymore. I had friends stop by from time to time, but I have no memory of our interactions. I would lay in the middle of the living room floor with my vodka bottle in-hand and crawl to the bathroom from time to time. I remember waking up to what I thought were strangers in my apartment splashing water on my face or bringing me food knowing that I hadn’t eaten in a ridiculous undetermined amount of time. I started to pawn off my things in order to supply my alcoholic mental breakdown. 

I just got rather off track, so back to the point of this blog.

Scientists have been exploring the idea of a “gay” gene, but up until this point haven’t been able to pinpoint anything one way or another. It makes me wonder what is different about those of us who are attracted to the same-sex vs. those who are not. It poses a few questions in my mind. Could heterosexual people be happy being with someone of the same sex if all religious or moral inhibitions or insecurities places by society were all removed. I’m a firm believer in “You don’t know you won’t like it until you try it”. Or is the real problem something deep inside the inner-workings of our mind that makes us different… Perhaps a defect or malformation of something just not yet discovered. And lastly, can we be “fixed”? Is there a medication being created somewhere down the line that can be a cure-all for those of us who aren’t completely comfortable with our feelings? I don’t really know the answer to any of these questions. But think of this… What if it was the other way around and gay was straight and straight people were a minority. Below is a link to my favorite awareness video of all time. I think it’s important that everyone see’s this at some point in time. So if you’ve made it this far into this blog, please take the time to watch the video. CLICK HERE FOR THE VIDEO 

Thank you all for reading.

Kisses, Lennox

What Is It Like To Crave Something So Simple, Yet So Hard To Ask For

What is it like to crave something so badly that nothing else can replace it? What is it like to have your whole body in constant pain just because you’re lacking one of the most important human needs? My answer to these questions is.. Empty. I constantly feel empty. I live virtually without any sort of physical human contact, and its lonely. Nobody hugs me, or touches my hand, or even lays their hand across my back as a simple gesture of genuinity. (I am aware that “genuinity” is not a real word, I’m not stupid, but I don’t feel it necessary to explain my reason for the word usage.)

What I need right now in my life is pretty simple. I don’t ask for much, and I’m easy to please.. but a hug is what I need. That is all. Even writing this, theres a lump in my throat, and I’m holding back tears that desperately need to be let out (but theres people around and they might wonder whats going on, and I don’t feel like making a scene..) The next thing I’m about to say isn’t meant to be taken lightly, but I also don’t want it to be taken too seriously. If you read my previous blog “What is REALLY Like To Have Rapid-Cycling Bipolar Disorder”, this will make a little more sense. I need so badly for someone to hug me and just let me cry… I need them to not judge me and understand that its something that needs to happen, because if it doesn’t… someday, it might cost me my life. I hate to admit that, but its a lonely, lonely place to feel this way when the solution is something so simple, but isn’t something you can just ask for. Ok.. Moving on from probably the most depressing thing I’ve written down to date. Whaddya do, I guess.

Anyways..

The last time someone hugged me, I left and I sobbed for an hour. I was so incredibly thankful that someone had shared such a small gesture with me. Its an understatement to say that it meant the world to me.. because it meant more. For a few days, the body pain went away.. the tingling that commonly radiates through my arms to my fingertips subsided.. and for the first time in years I didn’t want to hurt myself. I had a happiness about me that just hadn’t surfaced up until that point. She’ll never know how badly I needed that hug that day. But fortunately, she’ll know what it meant to me, because she visits my blog from time to time.

Thats all for now. Feel free to check out my previous 3 blogs.. its some good, very honest and raw stuff- if you’re into that kind of thing. But for real, they just bleed truth all over the place so if you care enough to wanna get to know me, feel free to check them out. You can view them by visiting my “Recent Blogs” category. Have a good weekend, everyone.

Kisses, Lennox